#3026 In response to #3020:
Easy, man. I know this is rough, but there is hope. It sounds like you're having some trouble redefining yourself outside of a relationship. Feel like you're missing your other half, like suddenly you're by yourself for no real reason, something you haven't felt in a long time.

I'm here to tell you, it's okay. You're probably going to go through a very long healing process. You're gonna blame yourself, you're gonna blame others, you're going to blame people/things that aren't even involved. That's okay. It's gonna feel like you're adrift in a ocean where there is nothing to grab onto that you can even consider "yourself." It's okay. Your focus right now will be on healing. Forgiving. Letting it all go. The more you practice this, the easier it gets. Forgive her, forgive yourself, forgive all the things/people you blamed. And that forgiveness is not tacit support for what has happened, it's allowing you to acknowledge what happened and let it go. She had her reasons for leaving and you have yours for being upset. Don't worry about whether any of those make any sense, just acknowledge they are there and move on. This does not happen overnight. It needs focus, time, and energy every day.

This is going to be a long road. It takes a while. You're going to want to talk about this with someone. Find some friends who would be willing to accept the vulnerability you're about to show them (maybe some of the more supportive strangers who offer such things on this page) or even just walk on down to the Counseling Center to talk to someone who is bound by law to not reveal what you've said and is trained to help you walk through this. Do this multiple times over the course of a few months. Eventually you will find something you truly believe is yourself and tentatively grab hold. This will be enough to put you on your feet and allow you stability to focus on change and making the effort to define who you are.

If at any point you find yourself considering ending your own life, call a friend immediately. Let them know or go spend some time with them. That is when you have reached a point where your thoughts are starting to destroy you. Then seek help. 301-314-HELP. It seems ridiculous, but it will save your life and keep from ruining the lives of those closest to you.

Good luck, my friend. This road will be long and difficult, learn the lessons well. I apologize for posting anonymously. There are too many details in this response that reveal much more about me than I want most people to know right now.

#3025 Ladies, i feel i am a pretty good sexual partner. I satisfy thr desires of others way before I even let them work on mine. I just like the recognition that it brings. Especially when she tells her friends that im thorough. But there's one thing that they dont get. Sometimes even get mad at me for.idk why..i dont climax. Ever. Ive sort of trained myself not to for a few reasons. is that weird or something? I thought you guys would be fine with it as long as you're the ones passing out after sex, but I guess I'm wrong?

#3024 I'm a vegetarian guy and its not like a girl hasta be veg for me to dig it but like its suchhh a turn on. I'm sitting outside the co op right now like omggg can I just smash all these legs right meow.

#3023 I have a foot fetish and I'm TERRIFIED of revealing it to the girls I hook up with.

#3022 I'm still so heartbroken, I hate it. It's crippling. But I can't seem drag myself out of this rut, no matter how hard I try.

#3021 Ladies, i feel i am a pretty good sexual partner. I satisfy thr desires of others way before I even let them work on mine. I just like the recognition that it brings. Especially when she tells her friends that im thorough. But there's one thing that they dont get. Sometimes even get mad at me for.idk why..i dont climax. Ever. Ive sort of trained myself not to for a few reasons. is that weird or something? I thought you guys would be fine with it as long as you're the ones passing out after sex, but I guess I'm wrong?

#3020 My girlfriend broke up with me three weeks ago.

We had been going out since my senior year of high school, and now I'm a junior here at UMD. I was her first boyfriend. Though I'd occasionally get irritated with her over tiny and meaningless stuff, we got along amazingly well, and I really thought that our bond would never end, at least not like it did. We NEVER fought. We went on a family trip a mere two months ago and I really thought I had become part of her family. We even discussed future plans, e.g. living together after we graduated.

She went back to her university back in early August, which is less than an hour drive from UMD, and halfway between our homes and UMD. We could only talk really late at night because she was incessantly busy at her school while training to become an RA. She seemed to be acting a little strange, but I attributed that to the new stress in her life. I tried to get to the bottom of things, but she assured me that everything was alright, and we continued to see each other as usual.

Fast forward to three weeks ago. She breaks up with me, quite unexpectedly. She tells me that she thought we were growing apart from each other. I didn't agree in the slightest; a little more than a month prior, she told me that I had meant the world to her. I was very confused. Eventually, I learned that she had met someone else when she went back to school, and developed feelings for him, despite our wonderful 2.5 years together. She's already moved on and replaced me, leaving me to wonder what I could have done to save our relationship.

I talked to her last night, and she told me that she wanted someone who was more outgoing and social, much like she was. I guess this new person is. I can be outgoing, but I am much more reserved than she is, and would often feel awkward at large family gatherings and the like. I also always felt out of place among her friends. Had I known that this bothered her to such an extent, I would have changed my ways. She didn't even give me a chance to.

I feel like I was a great boyfriend, and that she was perfect for me. Now there's a giant void in my life that may take a very long time to be filled. Gone is that special connection with someone you love, that comforting feeling as you drift off to sleep that there's someone out there who is thinking about you, missing you. I feel betrayed, but most of all I feel alone.

I loved her.

#3019 When I masturbate I can't help but think my of girlfriend's best friend.