#31261 I'm the OP of post
#31192.
I understand now. So the double-standard is something that SOME men express. With women, most women slut shame both men and women, except for the occasional women who think it's perfectly fine and "sex positive" for both men and women to sleep with copious amounts of people. In addition, they prefer men who have slept with a bunch of women because in their opinion this means they are more experienced, which means better sex. Just wanted to say: Having sex with a bunch of people does not = experience. The best sex I've ever had was with a virgin who I gained a ton of experience with. You can have sex 1,000 times with one or two people and gain experience that way. Also, slut shaming does not = sex shaming. I think sex is great; I just don't want to have sex with someone who has fucked 50 random people. I simply wouldn't trust them with my body and health...
Wanted to clarify something: I never said I wasn't slut shaming in my post, so I wasn't being contradictory. I simply wanted to know about the double-standard. Honestly, If I find out someone has many hookups with people they don't care about/barely know, sleep with people who are already in relationships, or have a body count over like 50, it does influence my judgement of their character. Sorry if that offends you, but I can't help it. STDs, abortions, and depression induced by poor sexual habits are very real. These are all more likely in people who are fucking random people or people they don't love (particularly in the case with women). All I'm saying is it'll make me see someone slightly differently, and I'd be especially cautious If I decided to have sex with someone like this. I'm not really shaming; just seeing promiscuous people in a different and slightly darker light. It portrays a lot about a person's values which many people don't agree with. Some advice for if you want to promote your agenda: Making light-hearted jokes about people's mother's swallowing is just sort of not that funny and makes you seem distasteful. Definitely doesn't make people want to side with you, that's for sure.
TLDR; Do what makes you happy, and stay safe. The only opinion that should matter about your sex life is your own. This is my opinion, but yours is valid too. Good luck!