#19330 Venting about exgf.

So... she takes me for granted, we break up and get back together a few times over two years, she tells me I'm too controlling and remind her of her crazy ass control freak mom, so I tone it down and she says I need to take control, i point out the contradiction, she then apologizes but still complains even after I get her to realize I'm not as jer mom,then she asks me to open the relationship because she keeps crushing on guys she meets, I tell her it's over if she wants that, she says fine, I say fine, I've had it, she starts bugging me about whether or not I'm serious and doesn't want to lose me, I'm the nicest guy, smartest, most loving, most manly, etc. she's ever dated, I'm done by this point, it's been almost a year and a half since then, she still bugs me with problems she has because of her shirt decision making, often with guys she tries to date that take advantage of her, I ignore the messages after this past March, she starts dating some guy who looks JUST LIKE ME, and she still sends me messages after most of this year of me not responding of how she thinks and dreams of me...

I'm venting because if I tell her to leave me alone again, she'll try to turn that into "us talking again". Oh, and after each breakup, she'd put me on a women's "no date list" of sorts by saying "he was a jerk" but leaving out any details (because she was making shit up, the break ups happened whenever she had another argument with her mom or she wanted drama, which she admittedly loves).

So, this girl who was nice, creative, unique, mature, and had sympathy for others is now a selfish, typical, immature, uncaring, and admittedly feeds off the misery of others and to top it off, she's become basic. Yep, girl's gone over to the basic side. The basic is strong with this one.

The worst part? It's still mostly her crazy ass control freak mom's fault. I asked her to get therapy for it, she refuses. (She once told me she doesn't remember ever getting a hug from her OWN MOM growing up, and she wanted to be a boy because of how badly she got along with her mom and how well her dad treated her, which btw caused other problems I won't even get into. And, yes, I should be nicer because her mom comes from a family where the dad had to be sent to a mental hospital for anger issues and the mom died of cancer when they were teens. But plenty of people with parents with mental disorders and deceased parents turn out fine and don't take things out on their kids who in turn take things out on unsuspecting people who care about them, namely boyfriends, just saying.)

New dating rule as I continue senior year: no women with unresolved mommy issues.

I never even knew that was a thing. Never in my life did I think I'd have a crappy relationship because of a woman with mommy issues. My worst fear with dating used to be not being able to find that special lady because of a lack of ladies with values similar to mine and personality that "clicks" with mine. Guess life tosses you the unexpected.

Conclusion: In a weird way I'm grateful for the wisdom gained.

End rant.

#19329 As an out of state student, I have been told to stay out of Gary Indiana; and understand why. However, one thing I don't understand is why everyone seems to hate Carmel, Indiana; as they never really explain why they don't like Carmel. Would anybody from Indiana care to explain why I should dislike Carmel as well? Confession: where I live people are getting ready for a hurricane; while here I'm freezing my butt off.

#19328 Where are all the men with nicely done tattoos? I think good tattoos make a guy 10 times hotter

#19327 Leonardo da Vinci was gay

#19326 I broke up with my ex for no good reason and I miss him terribly. Should I try to get him back? - cause he makes me really happy. Is a future important to ruin the present?

#19325 I was the fattest guy I saw at the corec earlier today. That's okay. I've just started and I have a long way to go. That's okay too. When it came time for me to take off my shirt and jump into the pool for a few laps, it didn't seem to matter what I thought anyone else might think of me. I know that I am doing this for myself and for no one else. That made me feel so powerful, so affirming, knowing I can and will change my life. I will be a regular feature there; get used to me. In a year or so, I'll be wondering along with the others where the rest of me went.

#19324 I've seen the whole Newsroom clip, of why America isn't the greatest country on earth anymore. I love the clip, but I can't help but disagree. I don't disagree because I think America is unilaterally the greatest, not even close to what we once had. I can't help but ask myself though; if America isn't the greatest then who is? Norway? Russia?

In the end, I think there has to be a country that is at the top, at least compared to the rest. And even when I consider all factors, for some reason there doesn't seem to be a country that could argue for that title. Not because America is superb, but if not us, then who?

#19321 I am so tired of college boys, and their not texting back games.